So I announced to the Boyfriend Candidate that I would never be his girlfriend. When I start thinking like “girlfriend” I start thinking like a twenty-something and putting all those expectations on him that just don’t matter to a forty-something. He was oddly disappointed.
He said he liked to think of me as his girlfriend and didn’t understand the issue with semantics. But whatever. I should do what I need to do if it means we can still hang out together.
And ever since then, he’s been acting like a boyfriend on steroids. I’ve never had such a great boyfriend at a time when I especially am not looking for one. Right now, he is in the other room nursing my sick 12 year old, tolerating my 9 year old’s need to watch South Park and politely telling the 6 year old not to pick his nose. It’s an interaction that any mother could relate to, but not a mere mortal of no blood relation.
The BC actually left work early last week to check on my sick son. I was at work myself and couldn’t leave so he checked it out. He brought my son a sandwich and stayed with him until I got home. My ex-husband during our seventeen years of marriage never did anything like that.
I’m confused. If this is “boyfriend” then maybe I should be his “girlfriend”. If this is “man trying to convince me that boyfriend is not such a bad idea therefore I should be his girlfriend then after he proves his point he goes back to being average guy”, then he can never be my boyfriend.
It’s all so confusing.
Forget it; he still won’t be my boyfriend.